Obfuscation is a favorite word in our house. Mountain Man and I tend to yell it as our children are leaving the house for the day. "Remember, don't obfuscate!!" Eschewing obfuscation is important because we want our kids to know that we don't want them to grow up to be liars, or politicians...oh wait, that's the same thing.
I kind of consider myself an expert at recognizing when people lie. Seriously, I should have been an CIA interrogator, or a Claire's Boutique manager, 'cause I can see a lying shoplifter a mile away.
My keen powers of knowing when someone is lying to me comes from the fact that I've re-read "The Definitive Book of Body Language" by Allan & Barbara Pease about 40 million times. And just as never missing an episode of E.R. makes me a doctor, and having a mom who is a dental hygienist make me an expert on teeth, by shear devotion, I am an expert on body language...or at least I can sound like I am, even if I have no idea what I'm talking about.
For instance, did you know that women lie better than men? Well, duh. Was there anyone who believed that Bill Clinton "didn't have sexual relations with that woman" ? On the other hand, I would believe ANYTHING Betty White told me, even if it wasn't true. But who are we kidding? Betty White would never lie.
Some body language clusters of lying include: covering your mouth, scratching your nose, rubbing your eyes, scratching your neck, and pulling on your collar. So if you're chatting away and see someone start of do one of the above, beware, you may have a liar on your hands.
Or, they might just have allergies.
Then you need to get them some Benadryl.
Can you spot a liar?