Wednesday, October 24, 2012

Things Come Together and Then They Fall Apart

We think that the point is to pass the test or to overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don’t really get solved.  They come together and they fall apart.  Then they come together again and fall apart again.  Its just like that.  The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen:  room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy.
~Pema Chodron
I love this quote by Buddhist teacher, Pema Chodron. I love it more today because this afternoon, a dear dear friend drove away with her family to Brooklyn, New York. For a short and cherished season, our friends, Mr. & Mrs. Marcus, graced us with their love, laughter, wisdom and joy and now life takes them onto the next chapter. 

In the wake of their absence, I've already felt the misery and grief. Yet, I also know that in the coming days there will be relief and even joy. Joy to hear of their adventures, and also joy in the realization that we were all able to be together during this brief and beautiful season. 

So, *raised glass* here's to coming together and falling apart, and allowing it all to's to living. 

Me and Mrs. Marcus. 


  1. Awwww. I love the quote you included, but have to admit that your positive attitude also reminds me of a slightly less profound Dr. Seuss one..."Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened."

  2. Here here (taking a drink from my glass of red).

  3. Sometimes it doesn't matter if the glass is half full or half empty - we've had the opportunity to partake and there is still enough remaining for the next celebration or to console us if the skies turn grey. Cheers.

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    1. Yep, we packed them up on Monday and Tuesday and they drove away yesterday...

  5. I like the idea of leaving room for things we normally consider to be problems. (((Hugs))) to you through a sad time, though.