Wednesday, April 3, 2013

Joyride A to Z: Change

Change.

The very word strikes fear.

(Seriously. I can hear your heart beating in terror from here.)

Change is hard.
Change sucks.
Change creeps up on us in the night and takes away the very thing we adore.

Simply put: Change makes my square teeth itch.

And...Change (dare I say it?) also brings new beginnings. Change brings growth. We are changing all the time. Everything is changing all the time. Our very breath insures it.

I often find it interesting (and repeatedly painful) that I expect things to remain the same. After all, our happiness is hard won, right?

And yet, the bodies we came to life with are no longer. All I have to do is look in the mirror and see that the graceful lines of my youth are jumbly around the edges. Every cell within my body (and yours too, unless you're six) has been replaced within the last seven years. I think new thoughts, have new feelings, experience new things. I am also (hopefully) more compassionate now than when I was as a child. Only change (that shifty blaggard!) has the power to help us evolve and become more open, more loving, and just more. Mountains move and seas rise and time passes and seasons are born and seasons die and there is always always change.

Then why do we resist it?

Hell if I know.

All I know is this: every great joy in my life has been preceded by terrible terrible anguish change. It's what my dear friend, Mrs. Marcus, calls "The grip before the shift." We beautiful humans yearn to hang onto what was, but when we finally and defiantly let go, our hands are open to receive the great joy that awaits.


 Change brings me great joy.(But sometimes not until after things kinda suck for a while.)
What brings you joy?


"Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don't resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” ~Lao Tzu

50 comments:

  1. Hi, Lisa! Sometimes I really like change. Sometimes not. It all depends on the situation. But the one constant in life, the one thing we can rely on, is that there is ALWAYS change!

    Happy A to Z-ing! from Laura Marcella @ Wavy Lines

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    1. I coudn't agree more with you, Laura! Sometimes change is easy and sometimes it just sucks!! But there's always change!

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  2. My little Reagan brings me joy. And she was a mighty change for everybody involved.

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  3. Great post! I'm learning to shift my views on "change = negative" to "change = potential - for good, for growth, for joy etc." It's not easy, but I think it'll be worth it. :)

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    1. I think learning to shift views on change is a life long process. I hope to get to the point one day where I see change and automatically think: How exciting! ;)

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  4. The best post I have read to date and spot-on! We all fight change because we can't see where it's taking us. Better the devil you know... But change is good. I tell my kids to always move forward. You can't grew to be who you are suppose to be by standing still. And looking back might give you perspective, but living in the past is like burying yourself in concrete. Thanks so much for sharing. Coming back tomorrow to see what you have in store for the letter D.

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    1. Thank you so much for stopping by, Nancy! You are so right: change IS good. :)

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  5. Great attitude...and a message I needed to hear/read. Thanks.

    Livin’ Out Loud for Jesus at www.MerrieHansen.com Facebook.com/MerrieHansen

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    1. Thanks for stopping by, Merrie! I'm headed over to your blog now!!!

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  6. Even when the prospect of change is for something good, I still panic a little! People acknowledging that it is okay to be a little scared while encouraging me to move forward bring me joy!

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    1. I am terrified of big changes too, Andrea!! It's normal and human to feel that way! Rejoice!

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  7. Change is a constant not always desired. I love this line: All I have to do is look in the mirror and see that the graceful lines of my youth are jumbly around the edges. Jumbly, indeed.

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    1. ...or squiggly. Nah...I'm just jumbly. :)

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  8. I am ready for some change in my life right now. Waiting to see what the Lord has in store for me.

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    1. His greatness knows no bounds. It will be amazing when it comes!

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  9. Following from the A to Z Challenge.

    My family, my faith, the ocean, mountains, an unlimited amount of craft supplies...are just some of the things that bring me joy.

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  10. I'm a friend of Lindsay (from No Man's Land). I was logged in as her because I help her edit her posts sometimes and saw your comments back and forth and thought, "Hey, I love her too!" Welcome to Portland!

    Have you been to the FMH meetups yet? They're at my good friend Janeanne's house and are superb.

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    1. I haven't yet! I missed the last one, but am looking forward to the one on the 20th. I can't WAIT to meet you all in person!!!

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  11. ...I think I like the idea of change too much.

    You've inspired us - I think Mrs. Marcus and I will see if we can put 26 posts together over at Gliding Along...

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    1. Yay!! :) And I've had my season of change for a while...I need a break. :)

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  12. Thanks for this inspiring post at a relevant time in my life! I have only a couple of days left in a job I love...moving to one I am unsure about but hope will provide more opportunities for the future. It's a big change including relocating and some days it is a struggle to remain positive...

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    1. Our family JUST went through what you are facing. It's so hard, and it is so wonderful. Enjoy the ride, you are fabulous!!

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  13. Ah change ... things are always changing - even now. And now. And now. If we accept the impermanence of life, we can be joyful about today without worrying about tomorrow. Sounds so easy!

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    1. It really does, and when I let go, it is! :)

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  14. Oh wow. You reached right out and smacked me upside the head, now didn't you? I am evolving now -- reckon I always have been (as we all are). I'm just hyper aware of it at the moment.

    LOVE your blog. And your writing style.

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    1. Awwww, thanks, Lauren! SO glad you stopped by!

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  15. "I refuse to change," said the caterpillar. Change happened, nonetheless.

    Blessings and Bear hugs!
    Bears Noting

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    1. Rob Bear!!! SO glad to see you!!! xoxox

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  16. I found your blog thanks to the A to Z Challenge and am really enjoying your straightforward writing style. I can't wait to read more! I've just nominated you for a Liebster Award on my own blog. :-)
    http://thingsiseeandknow.wordpress.com/2013/04/03/chosen/

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    1. That is purely the wisdom of my friend Mrs. Marcus. She's amazing!

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  18. I have grabbed my recent changes by both hands (metaphorically!) and we are swinging around and around in a dizzying, giggling, whirling circle of newfound freedom and happiness! I don't want to stay that person I was 7 years ago! Thank heavens every cell is new! :)

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  19. I'm terrified of change ... it's all jingly and it makes your purse look bloated!

    Sorry, couldn't resist ;D

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  20. Great post! I think you pretty much nailed it. Mrs. Marcus is indeed wise--I wrote down that quote when you repeated it to me recently, and I have thought of it many times since! Grippin' and shiftin'--that's life! xo

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    1. I'm always, "Get ready! Here is comes!!" ;)

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  21. Thank you for stopping by.

    Yes, I love Change, after it happens. When it is in the process of happening, I resist with all my might, but hey, change is good.

    Lovely choice for a C word.

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    1. I resist it too! But it's like exercise--it's best when it's over. ;)

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  22. Changes which challenge the 'certainties' we have lived with and rely on are the most difficult (in my opinion). The understandings and belief systems I have based my worldview on are the ones which cause the greatest degree of angst and defensiveness - when their validity and accuracy are brought into question. Giving birth to a new sense of self is both painful and rewarding. Change is something we often fear and yet crave at the same time. Best wishes. Jeff.

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    1. Jeff, I think I'm going to have to tattoo your profound words on my forehead so I can keep them with me always.

      A-MEN.

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  23. I've always been scared of change. I'm a what-ifer. I always wonder "what if" and its usually not a good scenario. It makes me scared to take chances. However, I've been learning that whether change is good or bad, its going to happen whether I want it to or not. I, like many other people, need to learn to just accept it and always try to make my own changes for the better.

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    1. Isn't it so hard? And it's always so worth it too. Choosing how you face change and uncertainty paints the entire experience in a different light.

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  24. Nicely said and oh so very applicable to me right now.

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  25. I'm usually one who strongly resists change, but lately in my life I'm ready to embrace it. I'm ready to quit my job and move to Ireland. For me, that's saying a lot to make such a drastic change, but if that's what it takes for me to have the life I want, I will do it.

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  26. I believe the best thing about change is that it shakes us up and keeps us from becoming stale and stuck in a rut. Absolutely hard to deal with, most of the time, but very, very good for us.

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  27. Lisa, I say that i like change but it can still be scary! I'm changing my blog site and that scares me, but it's good to fight through the fear and go for the change sometimes, isn't it? (I, unfortunately see my youthful skin changing more than I'd like as well!) :)

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